Matt Alexander
The Life of a Church Planter
recent posts
- “Words That Wound: A Pastor’s Heart on Weight, Worth, and the Power of the Tongue”
- Part 6 — How to Leave Well: Honoring God in Every Goodbye
- Part 5 — Feeling Out of Place: When Returning Feels Harder Than Leaving
- Part 4 — When Disagreement Turns to Distance: Loving When We Don’t See Eye to Eye
- Part 3 — Ending Friendships With Grace: A Better Way Forward
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Theme Verse:“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…” — Proverbs 18:21 (NASB1995)“Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” — James 1:19 (ESV) A Lifetime of Hearing What Should Have Never Been Said I’ve carried extra weight most of my life. Before some people ever saw my character, my…
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“Let all that you do be done in love.” — 1 Corinthians 16:14 (ESV) Leaving Without Vanishing Not every friendship or ministry connection is meant to last forever. Sometimes God truly does lead us into new seasons. He may move a family to a new city, call someone into another ministry, or simply redirect a…
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“Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.” — Romans 15:7 ESV When Familiar Faces Feel Distant Not everyone who disappears from church or friendship leaves because of conflict. Sometimes life just gets busy. A job change, a move, family pressures, illness — and suddenly weeks of absence turn into…
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“So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.” — Romans 14:19 ESV When Fellowship Fades Over Friction Disagreements happen in every church and in every friendship. But the pain comes when disagreement turns into disappearance—when instead of talking through what hurt, one or both parties simply pull away. I’ve seen it…
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“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” — Romans 12:18 (ESV) When People Leave Without a Word Over the years, I’ve learned that friendships—even the closest ones—don’t always last forever. People change, seasons shift, and sometimes God leads paths in different directions. But there’s one thing that never stops hurting:…
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“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” — 1 Peter 4:8 (ESV) The Ripple Effect When friendships end suddenly, the ache doesn’t stop with the people directly involved. It ripples through entire families. After that couple vanished from our lives, the silence seeped into our home. Our children didn’t…
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“Even my close friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me.” — Psalm 41:9 ESV There’s a particular pain few people prepare you for—the pain of ghosted friendships. It’s when someone you love suddenly stops responding to calls or texts, not because of conflict but simply without explanation. When the Calls…
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“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” — Galatians 6:2 (ESV) A Burden I’ve Carried for Years For years, I’ve carried an unfinished piece in my drafts folder. It started as one long, raw post about something few pastors or church members ever talk about—the pain of being ghosted by people we love. You…
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